tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-452802329695708276.post7533937525697665402..comments2023-10-09T10:57:29.323-04:00Comments on Prayer of Hannah: What I've learned about disciplining WillAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10067831645040029841noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-452802329695708276.post-24214023737563627482008-02-18T23:27:00.000-05:002008-02-18T23:27:00.000-05:00The underlying issue in all of these comments is t...The underlying issue in all of these comments is the intersection of home and public. Several issues should be considered, among them:<BR/>1. What kind of ministry are we missing out on by not showing others how we handle disobedience by graciously following through- and actively modeling what God does in our lives? How many other mothers, or grandmothers, will be amazed by our not undermining Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15857034040611313489noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-452802329695708276.post-91012570228614317492008-02-16T00:12:00.000-05:002008-02-16T00:12:00.000-05:00Hi! In regards to the discipline in public....if J...Hi! In regards to the discipline in public....if James is misbehaving in public I either A. Pull him over someplace private and discipline him, or B. I use the method learned in my education class...I get very very close to him and say very low (just between the two of us) what he's doing wrong and what he needs to be doing. The second is often more effective. Also, If I discipline James in Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02415638543648865249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-452802329695708276.post-57005899242358109572008-02-15T10:58:00.000-05:002008-02-15T10:58:00.000-05:00I like the idea of signing the word no! We did sig...I like the idea of signing the word no! We did signs with Will - but I never taught him no. That would be very handy in situations (like church) where we needed to be quiet! Thanks for all the comments everyone!Christinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12176187840766858931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-452802329695708276.post-50824636675303082062008-02-15T09:45:00.000-05:002008-02-15T09:45:00.000-05:00We started disciplining our sweet baby when she wa...We started disciplining our sweet baby when she was about 7 1/2 months old and started trying to stand up in the bathtub and roll around on the changing table. We just say "No, Karis" and if she doesn't immediately stop, we swat her hand. Now that she is 8 1/2 months and crawling into everything, this has become so valuable and she really listens! She always stops what she is doing and looks Meghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17699472332730031529noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-452802329695708276.post-17636374129283584742008-02-14T17:49:00.000-05:002008-02-14T17:49:00.000-05:00On the subject of disciplining in public: our past...On the subject of disciplining in public: our pastor's son, who is a very wise and godly dad, caught his 2-year-old son by the elbow the other day, while he was doing something wrong, and said, "son, don't do that."<BR/><BR/>A minute later, the little boy did it again, and the dad caught him by the elbow again, gave him a swift spank and said, "daddy said don't do that," and then very sincerely Jeffrey & Shannonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09664804363688381246noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-452802329695708276.post-5557588358918721762008-02-14T12:36:00.000-05:002008-02-14T12:36:00.000-05:00Christina,thanks for your post. My kids are final...Christina,<BR/><BR/>thanks for your post. My kids are finally getting to the age where if they disobey in public, I can delay the punishment until we are at home or in the car. I know they remember because they can tell me what they did that deserves the spank. My struggle now is with follow through. If I told them they'd get a spank when they got home for that behavior then I better do it, Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12707869717872150950noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-452802329695708276.post-12104957614302724732008-02-14T11:29:00.000-05:002008-02-14T11:29:00.000-05:00My son is 10 months...and I can TELL he knows what...My son is 10 months...and I can TELL he knows what he is doing. <BR/><BR/>I'll tell him no, and a swat on the hand and redirection. He'll turn right back around, look at me, give me a precious smile and do it over. As soon as he started doing that (about 8.5/9 months) smiling and then repeating the action, I realized that he knew he was disobeying. He gets swats on the hand, unless it is Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-452802329695708276.post-33611370139483169532008-02-14T11:14:00.000-05:002008-02-14T11:14:00.000-05:00allison, I think we started popping Will's hand ar...allison, <BR/>I think we started popping Will's hand around 12 months. Looking back, I KNOW he understood way earlier than this and we could have started earlier. Leah mentioned swatting Samuel's behind at 9 months. I do remember it becoming VERY apparent to us when Will understood exactly that he was disobeying and what the consequence was. I'm not sure there is a magic age because every child Christinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12176187840766858931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-452802329695708276.post-87461593118494797612008-02-14T10:58:00.000-05:002008-02-14T10:58:00.000-05:00How early is it okay to begin using spanking or sw...How early is it okay to begin using spanking or swatting? Is there any way to know when a child knows and understands this action is given for wrong behavior? <BR/><BR/>I am pregnant with our first and am trying to glean as much as I can from those who have already gone through these stages.allisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05137478258893011205noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-452802329695708276.post-881187274305857352008-02-14T10:01:00.000-05:002008-02-14T10:01:00.000-05:00I'm so glad to know I'm not alone in struggling wi...I'm so glad to know I'm not alone in struggling with this. Thanks for sharing Rachael!! <BR/><BR/>Great perspective Leah! That is pretty much what we have been doing - but I guess I was doubting if it was best. I think you're right that if there is consistency at home, times when discipline is needed in public will be less.Christinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12176187840766858931noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-452802329695708276.post-85623663677182680742008-02-14T00:25:00.000-05:002008-02-14T00:25:00.000-05:00My two cents on spanking in public: I have been kn...My two cents on spanking in public: I have been known to give Samuel a swat on the bottom when I am training him to do something, but I do not spank him in public. The difference between swat and spank for me is that a swat is a tap on the bottom to enforce the word "no" and is used when teaching right vs. wrong behavior. A spank is harder (usually delivered in a set of 3 for us) and is used whenAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10067831645040029841noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-452802329695708276.post-65222895369824155752008-02-13T22:01:00.000-05:002008-02-13T22:01:00.000-05:00Christina, We are also struggling through and pray...Christina, <BR/><BR/>We are also struggling through and praying over how to discipline our 18 month old in public.<BR/><BR/>In our home, disobedience and defiance always result in a spanking, the heart behind that being that disobedience and defiance toward God always results in pain and suffering. We want to teach Allana to obey us (the first time!) so that she will know how to obey God (the Rachael Davishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10463541603460739861noreply@blogger.com